There are many people who have limited resources to draw from in their lives, so they unconsciously attempt to fill their social and emotional needs through you or from wherever possible. Sometimes they exhaust you in an attempt to fill the gaps that would make them feel validated, loved, and supported. It is not a bad thing that they want these things, but if they don't find constructive ways to find self-acceptance and inner balance, they can run some people away by being overbearing. Sound familiar?
Sometimes you can't or don't want to cut these people off, but for the sake of your own inner balance and peace of mind, you can't commit to not being a reliable source for them to draw from to fulfill their various needs. It is not your job to fill the gaps.
How do you know when to use a long handled spoon? READ THE WARNING SIGNS BELOW:
When you notice this person has a difficulty being honest.
When you notice this person loves drama and is always trying to draw you in one.
When you notice that they are constantly seeking validation.
When you feel like you have to get prayed up before each interaction.
When you can't get a word in edgewise because they can talk but can't listen.
When they get mad when you don't agree with them.
When you feel that no matter what you do, it will never be enough.
If one or more of these apply to a relationship you have, take out your long handled spoon and give them what you can from a distance. They can’t help it most of the time, but that doesn’t mean you have to deal with it.
